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By Jasmine Macdonald There are no set rules on who has the honor of escorting a bride down the aisle. Traditionally the father walks the bride down the aisle, but with modern non-traditional families this is not always an option. Here are some ideas for non-traditional family situations. Deceased Father or Absentee Father You can walk down the aisle by yourself. Or you can ask your mother, stepfather, brother or a close relative/friend to escort you. Whoever escorts you down the aisle will sit in the front pew after the precession. When the clergymember asks, "Who gives this woman in marriage?", your escort may respond. Even if your mother did not walk you down the aisle; she may still respond "I Do" from her place in the first pew. Deceased Mother You can ask a favorite aunt or grandmother to take your mother’s place during the wedding. She should sit in the front pew with your father. It is even acceptable to have her join your father in escorting you down the aisle. Divorced Parents - Mother Remarried This can cause a sticky situation. Every family dynamic is different so there is no single solution. Here are some general guidelines you may want to consider. Close to your natural father - If he has been a part of your life you may want to take the traditional route and have him walk you down the aisle. There is no need to cut your stepfather out of your wedding - He can do a special reading during the ceremony, or dance the first dance with you. Father and Stepfather on friendly terms - If you are torn between your father and stepfather you may ask them both to escort you (one on each arm). When the clergymember asks, "Who supports this woman in marriage", they both respond "We do". Another idea is to have your stepfather walk you half way down the aisle and sit in the front pew as you take your father’s arm to the altar. Be sure to speak to your father and stepfather privately to make sure they are okay with your plans. If one or both father’s seem kind of apprehensive with your plans, do not push the issue. Absentee Father vs. Stepfather If your natural father has been distant and your stepfather has been there to support you, ask your stepfather to escort you down the aisle. The father who has supported you the most throughout your lifetime deserves the honor of escorting you. Your natural dad may try to guilt you into choosing him but do not give in. He let you down many times before and probably will again. On the other hand, consider your stepfather’s feelings. He helped raise you and loved you and would feel betrayed if you chose your absentee father over him. So be sure to choose wisely. Cannot Decide If you are very fond of both of your fathers and cannot decide who to choose; ask neither. Walk down the aisle by yourself or have your groom escort you. Jasmine Macdonald is an editor of several wedding theme sites…http://merrybrides.wordpress.com http://funweddings.blog.com http://funweddings.blogspot.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jasmine_Macdonald http://EzineArticles.com/?Wedding-Ceremony-Escort—Walking-Down-The-Aisle&id=371442 ativan burns low cost zolpidem 10 mg from us pharmacy ambien truth serum ambien effects

By Sam Vaknin Despite all the fashionable theories of marriage, the narratives and the feminists, the reasons to engage in marriage largely remain the same. True, there have been role reversals and new stereotypes have cropped up. But the biological, physiological and biochemical facts were less amenable to modern criticisms of culture. Men are still men and women are still women in more than one respect. Men and women marry for the same reasons: The Sexual Dyad formed due to sexual attraction and in order to secure a stable, consistent and permanently available source of sexual gratification. The Economic Dyad To form a functioning economic unit within which the economic activities of the members of the dyad and of additional entrants will be concentrated. The economic unit generates more wealth than it consumes and the synergy between its members is likely to lead to gains in production and in productivity relative to individual efforts and investment. The Social Dyad The members of the couple bond as a result of implicit or explicit, direct, or indirect social pressure. This pressure can manifest itself in numerous forms. In Judaism, a person cannot belong to some religious vocations, unless he is married. This is economic pressure. In most human societies, avowed bachelors are considered to be socially deviant and abnormal. They are condemned by society, ridiculed, shunned and isolated, effectively ex-communicated. Partly to avoid these sanctions and partly to enjoy the warmth provided by conformity and acceptance, couples marry. Today, a myriad of lifestyles is on offer. The old fashioned, nuclear marriage is one of many variants. Children are reared by single parents. Homosexual couples abound. But in all this turbulence, a pattern is discernible : almost 95% of the adult population gets married ultimately. They settle into a two-member arrangement, whether formalized and sanctioned religiously or legally or not. The Companionship Dyad Formed by adults in search of sources of long-term and stable support, emotional warmth, empathy, care, good advice and intimacy. The members of these couples tend to define themselves as each other’s best friends. It is folk wisdom to state that the first three types of dyad arrangements suffer from instability. Sexual attraction wanes and is replaced by sexual attrition in most cases. This could lead to the adoption of non-conventional sexual behaviour patterns (sexual abstinence, group sex, couple swapping, etc.) or to recurrent marital infidelity. Economics are not sufficient grounds for a lasting relationship, either. In today’s world, both partners are potentially financially independent. This new found autonomy corrodes the old patriarchal-domineering-disciplinarian pattern of relationship. It is replaced by a more balanced, business like, version with children and the couple’s welfare and life standard as the products. Marriages based solely on these considerations and motivations are as easy to dismantle and as likely to unravel as is any other business collaboration. Social pressures are a potent maintainer of family cohesiveness and apparent stability. But being enforced from the outside it resembles detention rather than a voluntary arrangement, with the same level of happiness to go with it. Moreover, social norms, peer pressure, social conformity cannot be relied upon to fulfil the roles of stabilizer and shock absorber reliably. Norms change, peer pressure can adversely influence the survival of the marriage (”If all my friends are divorced and apparently content, why shouldn’t I try it, too ?”). It is only the companionship dyad, which appears to be enduring. Friendships deepen with time. While sex deteriorates, economic motives are reversible or voidable, and social norms are fickle companionship, like wine, gets better with time. Even when planted on the most desolate land, under the most difficult and insidious circumstances this obdurate seed sprouts and blossoms. “Matchmaking is done in heaven” goes the old Jewish saying but Jewish matchmakers were not averse to lending the divine process a hand. After closely scrutinizing the background of both candidates male and female a marriage was pronounced. In other cultures, marriages were arranged by prospective or actual fathers without asking for the embryos or the toddlers’ consent. The surprising fact is that arranged marriages last much longer than those, which are, ostensibly, the result of romantic love. Moreover: the longer a couple cohabitates prior to the marriage, the higher the likelihood of divorce. So, romantic love and cohabitation (”getting to know each other better”) are negative precursors and predictors of marital longevity, contrary to commonsense. Companionship grows out of friction within a formal arrangement, which is devoid of “escape clauses”. In marriages where divorce is not an option (due to prohibitive economic or social costs or because of legal impossibility) companionship will grudgingly develop and with it contentment, if not happiness. Companionship is the offspring of pity and empathy and shared events and fears and common suffering and the wish to protect and to shield and habit forming. Sex is fire companionship is old slippers: comfortable, static, useful, warm, secure. We get attached very quickly and very thoroughly to that with which we are in constant touch. This is a reflex that has to do with survival. We attach to other mothers and have our mothers attach to us. In the absence of social interactions, we die younger. We need to bond and to create dependency in others. The marital cycle is composed of euphorias and dysphorias (which are more of the nature of panic). They are the source of our dynamism in seeking out mates, copulating, coupling (marrying) and reproducing. The source of these changing moods is to be found in the meaning that we attach to our marriages. They constitute the real, irrevocable, irreversible and serious entry into adult society. Previous rites of passage (like the Jewish Bar Mitzvah, the Christian Communion and more exotic rites elsewhere) prepare us only partially to the shock of realizing that we are about to emulate our parents. During the first years of our lives, we tend to view our parents as omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent demigods (or complete gods). Our perception of them, of ourselves and of the world is magical. All are entangled, constantly interacting, identity interchanging entities. Our parents are idealized and, then, as we get disillusioned, they are internalized to become the first and most important among the myriad of inner voices that guide our lives. As we grow up (adolescence) we rebel against our parents (in the final phases of identity formation) and then learn to accept them and to resort to them in times of need. But the primordial gods of our infancy never die, nor do they lie dormant. They lurk in our superego, conducting an incessant dialogue with the other structures of our personality. They constantly criticize and analyse, make suggestions and reproach. The hiss of these voices is the background radiation of our personal big bang. Thus, to get married, is to become gods, to commit sacrilege, to violate the very existence of our mother and father, to defile the inner sanctum of our formative years. This is a rebellion so momentous, so all encompassing, touching upon the very foundation of our personality that we shudder in anticipation of the imminent and, no doubt, horrible punishment that awaits us for being so presumptuous and iconoclastic. This, indeed, is the first dysphoria, which accompanies our mental preparations. Preparedness is achieved at a cost of great consternation and the activation of a host of primitive defence mechanisms, which lay dormant hitherto. We deny, we regress, we repress, we project to no avail. The battle is waged and it is horrific to behold. Luckily, only its echoes reach our consciousness and only in our dreams does it find a fuller (though more symbol laden) expression. This self-induced panic is the result of a conflict. On the one hand, the person knows that it is absolutely life threatening to remain alone (both biologically and psychologically). A feeling of urgency emerges which propels the person with a great thrust to find a mate. On the other hand, there is this feeling of impending disaster, that he is doing something wrong, that an act of blasphemy and sacrilege is in the making. Getting married is the most terrifying rite of passage. The reaction is to confine oneself to known territories. The terra cognita of one’s neighbourhood, country, language, race, culture, language, background, profession, social stratum, education. The individual defines himself by belonging to these groups. They imbue him with feelings of security and firmness. It is to them that he applies in his quest to find a mate. There, in the confidence of yore, he seeks to find the security of morrow. Solace can be found in familiar grounds. The panicked person can be calmed and restored among his peers and (mental, economic, social) brethren. No wonder that more than 80% of the marriages take place among members of the same social class, profession, race, creed and breed. True: the chances to come across a mate are bigger within these groups and associations but the more predominant reason is the comfort that it provides. The dysphoria is replaced by an euphoria. This is the euphoria, which naturally accompanies any triumph in life. Overcoming the panic is such a triumph and not a mean one at that. Subduing the internal tyrants (or guides, depending on the character of the primary objects) of yesteryear qualifies the young adult to become one himself. He cannot become a parent unless and until he eradicates his parents. This is patricide and matricide committed with great trepidation and pain. But the victory is rewarding all the same and it leads to feelings of renewed vigour, new-found optimism, sensations of omnipotence and other traces of magical thinking. The adult is ready to court his mate, woo her, hypnotize her into being his. He is full of the powers of life, of hormones, of energy. He gushes forth, he resounds with the tintinnabulation’s of a better future, his eyes glint, his speech revives. In short, he is immersed in romantic love. Being a suitor is a full time emotional job. The chances of success are enhanced the more mentally and emotionally available is the youth, the less burdened he is with past unresolved conflicts. The more successfully resolved the previous, dysphoric phase the more vigorous the ensuing euphoric one and the bigger the chances of mating, generation and reproduction. But our conflicts are never really put to eternal rest. They lie dormant in the waiting. The next anti-climatic dysphoric phase transpires when the attempts to secure (the consent of) a mate are met with success. It is easier and more satisfying to dream. Fighting for a cause is always preferable to the dreariness of materializing it. Mundane routine is the enemy of love and of optimism. This is where all dreams end and harsh reality intrudes with its uncompromising demands. The assent of the future spouse forces the youth to move forward in a path which grows irreversible and ominous as he progresses. The emotional investment is about to acquire economic and social dimensions. The weight is growing heavier, the commitment deeper, the escape remoter, the end inevitable. The person feels trapped, shackled, threatened. His newfound stability flounders. He staggers along a way of no return leading to what looks like a dead end. The strength of these negative emotions depends, to a very large extent, on the parental models of the individual and on the kind of family life that he experienced. The worse the earlier (and only) available example the mightier the sense of entrapment and resulting paranoia and backlash. But most people overcome this stage fright and proceed to formalize a relationship. They get married in a religious institution, or in a civil court, or sign a contract, or make their own arrangements. The formality resides in the institutionalization of the relationship not necessarily in the choice of the legal host. This decision, this leap of faith is the corridor, which leads to the palatial hall of post-nuptial euphoria. This time the euphoria is mostly a social reaction. The new status (just married) bears a cornucopia of social rewards and incentives, some of them enshrined in legislation. Economic benefits, social approval, familial support, the envious reactions of the younger, the expectations and joys of marriage (freely available sex, children, lack of parental or societal control, newly experienced unrestrained and almost unconstrained freedoms). All these infuse the person with another magical bout of feelings of omnipotence. The control that he exercises over his “lebensraum”, over his spouse, over his life is translated into a fountain of mental forces emanating from the person’s very being. He feels confidence, his self esteem skyrockets, he sets high goals and seriously intends to achieve them. To him, everything is possible, now that he is left to his own devices and is supported by his mate. With luck and the right partner, this frame of mind can last and be prolonged. However, as life’s disappointments accumulate, obstacles mount, the possible sorted out from the improbable and time inexorably passes the feeling of well being and of willingness to take on the world and its challenges abates. The reserves of energy and determination dwindle. Gradually, the person slides into a dysphoric (even anhedonic or depressed) mood which colours his entire life. The coloration stops at nothing. The routines of his life, their mundane attributes, the contrast between the glamour of our dreams (however realistically construed) and the reality of our day to day existence these erode his previous horizon. It tends to shrink and imprison him in what looks like a life sentence. He feels suffocated and in his bitterness and agony, in his fear of entrapment, he lashes at his spouse. She represents to him this dead end situation. Had it not been for this new responsibility he would not have let his life atrophy thus. Thoughts of breaking loose, of going back to the parental nest, of revoking the arrangements agreed upon begin to frequent the troubled mind and to intrude upon al planning. Dismantling the existing is a frightening prospect. Again, panic sets it. Conflict rears its ugly head. Cognitive dissonance abounds. Inner turmoil leads to irresponsible, self-defeating and self-destructive behaviour. A lot of marriages end here. Those that survive do so because of children. In his quest for an outlet, a solution, a release of the bottled tensions, an exit from numbing boredom, from professional inertia and “death” both members of the couple (providing they still possess the minimal wish to “save” the marriage) hit upon the same idea but from different directions. The woman finds it an attractive and efficient way of securing the bonding, fastening the relationship and transforming it into a long-term commitment. Bringing a child to the world is perceived by her to be a “double whammy” (partly because of social and cultural conditioning during the socialization process). On the one hand, it is in all likelihood the glue to cement the hitherto marriage of fun or of convenience. On the other, it is the ultimate manifestation of her femininity. Children are, therefore, brought to the world as an insurance policy against the disintegration of their parents’ relationships. Love and attachment follow later. The male reaction is more compounded. At first, the child is (at least unconsciously) perceived to be an extension of the state of entrapment and stagnation. The man realizes that a child will only “drag him deeper” into the quagmire. The quicksand characteristics of his life seem to be only amplified by this new entrant. The dysphoria deepens and matures into full-fledged panic. It then subsides and gives way to a sense of awe and wonder. As it increases, it becomes all-pervasive. A psychedelic feeling of being part parent (to the child) and part child (to his own parents) ensues. The birth of the child and his first stages of development only serve to deepen this odd sensation. Child rearing is a difficult task. It is time and energy consuming. It is emotionally taxing. It denies the parent long obtained achievements and long granted rights (such as privacy or intimacy or self-indulgence or even sleep). It is a full-blown crisis and trauma with potentially the severest consequences. The strain on the relationship of the parents in enormous. They either completely break down or are revived by the common challenge and hardships. A period of collaboration and reciprocity, of mutual support and increasing love follows. An euphoric phase sets in. Everything else pales besides the little miracle. The child becomes the centre of Narcissistic feelings, of hopes and fears, the heart of an emotional tornado. So much is vested and invested in him and, initially, the child gives so much in return that it blots away the daily problems, tedious procedures, failures, disappointments and aggravations. But this role of his is temporary. The more autonomous a child becomes, the more knowledgeable, the less innocent the less rewarding, the more frustrating, the sadder the scene, the more dysphoric. The children’s adolescence, the dysfunction of a couple, the members of which grew apart, developed separately and are estranged set the scenery and pave the way to the next major dysphoria: the midlife crisis. This, essentially, is a crisis of reckoning, of inventory taking, a disillusionment, a realization and assimilation of one’s mortality. The person looks back and sees how little he has achieved, how short the time left, how unrealistic his expectations were and are, how alienated he is from his society, his country, his culture, his closest, how ill-equipped he is to cope with all this and how irrelevant and unhelpful is marriage is. To him, it is all a fake, a Potemkin village, a facade behind which rot and corruption have consumed his life and corroded his vitality. This seems to be a last chance to recuperate, to recover lost ground, to strike one more time. Aided by others’ youth (a young lover, students, his own children, a young partner or consultant, a start up company) the person tries to recreate his beginnings in a vain effort to make amends, not to commit the same mistakes twice. This crisis is exacerbated by the “empty nest” syndrome (as children grow up and live the parental home). A major topic of consensus, a catalyst of interaction between the members of the couple thus disappears. The vacuity of the relationship, the gaping hole formed by the termites of a thousand marital discords is revealed. It is the couple’s chance to fill it in with empathy and mutual support. Most fail, however. They discover that they lost faith in their powers to rejuvenate each other. They are suffocated by fumes of grudges, regrets and sorrows. They want out into a fresher (younger) atmosphere. And out they go. Those who do remain, revert to accommodation rather than to love, to co-existence rather to experimentation, to arrangements of convenience rather to revival. It is a sad sight to behold. As biological decay sets in, the couple heads into the ultimate dysphoria: ageing and death. About The Author Sam Vaknin is the author of “Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited” and the editor of mental health categories in The Open Directory, Suite101, and searcheurope.com. 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By Jeffrey Nelson As a loan officer, an essential component of your success is loyalty from Realtors. When you begin mortgage broker marketing, your focus should not be on your rates, service or loan programs. None of these things inspire loyalty the way comfort does. How so? Ask Realtors why they stay with a particular loan officer. The answer is not a result of a specific mortgage broker marketing; almost always the answer is that they are comfortable with the loan officer. Remember, Realtors are being constantly bombarded by requests from loan officers to work with them. These loan officers make all kinds of promises, great communication, friendly service, low rates, etc. All too often these promises are broken. Each time promises are broken, the Realtors defenses go up. Their income is dependent on the performance of loan officers; it makes sense that they would view the loan officer with trepidation. That is why it is so important to establish a bond of trust with Realtors, or a sense of comfort. So, how do you build comfort? There is actually 6 ways to establish a comfort level with Realtors. Become the Familiar Face Realtors look for names and brands that are recognizable. They look for a reputation that they can count on. When it comes to choosing a loan officer, they will look for one they are familiar with. Keeping your name visible creates that familiarity. Whether it is making appearances at real estate offices or at networking events, getting quoted in local papers or business journals, or sponsoring fund raising events, all make it possible for your name to become a familiar entity. Make Yourself Clear Look closely at your marketing materials. Are they as clear as they could be? Do you use jargon, is your message vague or ambiguous. When you strive for clarity, you build confidence with the Realtors in your abilities. Keep your message simple. If you cannot say what makes you unique in thirty worlds or less, you need to reevaluate your service until you can make the message clear and refined. Become the Expert Without a doubt, relying on another person for your income is a scary proposition. But that is exactly the position Realtors find themselves in on a daily basis. They have to rely on loan officers to do exactly what they say they will. When they know they are dealing with an expert, they can relax. Do you give the impression of being an expert? Whether it is the way you dress, your website or your materials, all Realtors will develop and impression based on the visual clues you offer. Work with Integrity When you deliver upon your promises, you operate with integrity. In a rapidly changing environment of the loan industry Realtors respect, and are willing to work with loan officers that operate with integrity. Genuineness Inspires Comfort Realtors are looking for someone who holds their interests as part of the process, the want someone they can genuinely trust with their income. They look for you to express an interest in building a relationship and protecting them. Be Passionate Do you love what you do? When you love what you do, it is important to you to do that job well. Passion is a powerful emotion that comes through in your message. When you are passionate, you are invested in doing your job well. Realtors know they can trust you to do everything you can to make the process work for them and their clients. Passion is a love for the job. It is communicated through your attitude. Are you positive? Is it fun to be around you? When you work to combine all these components in your mortgage broker marketing, you establish a level of trust and comfort with Realtors. And that trust builds into a great relationship that brings them back to work with you. Jeff Nelson helps loan officers increase loan originations by attracting quality relationships with real estate agents from the development of customized relationship-building strategies. Click here to get a free copy of the Marketing Planning Guide, a 20-page workbook designed to help you outline a strategy to become an Agent Magnet. Visit us at www.loan-officer-marketing.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jeffrey_Nelson http://EzineArticles.com/?Including-Comfort-in-Your-Mortgage-Broker-Marketing&id=320315 ambien cr better than lunestar ativan adiction ambien generic price long term effects of ativan

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Most of us have some type of difficulties in expressing ourselves or we just don’t share our feelings enough with the people next to us. One way to enrich communication, and at the side the best and sometimes even the worst parts of our lives, is hugging. Hugging has many ways of communication. Through hugs we can spread our unspoken language to the language of wider expression. The precious moments of living get also a new significance when we add hugs into them. These expressions of trust have also been misused. History says that one of the greatest mis-usage was when, Judas betrayed Jesus with a kiss. The talent of shaking hands is not always the most suitable way to build contacts. To get the whole body into the action, its better to share with a hug. Through Hugs one learns to build deeper relationships. The better one knows the “secrets” of hugging, the more he or she can get out of it! Psychologists say, despite the hustle and bustle of juggling busy lives, buying Christmas presents and entertaining the family, one should always find some time for that all important hug! A poll revealed that two out of three UK adults have a hug at least once a day. The Scots are the most frequent huggers with 26% of them hugging more than five times a day. With Londoners not far behind with 24% enjoying at least five cuddles daily. The Welsh are not so touchy freely however, with 10% of the respondents in Wales sadly never exchange hugs. The ways of hugging vary a lot. One of the traditional way of hugging is to tie ones arm around one’s partner’s shoulders, while his or her partner ties his or her arm around his or her waist. To get more involved one may tie both arms around his or her partner’s waist, and he or she may tie his or her arms around his or her partner’s shoulders. Holdings may vary a lot. However, the most important fact in holding is to perceive the situation that one is in and choose an appropriate holding style on the situational bases. It is good to seek solidness and interaction out of the hug. Often traditional holdings are better than the brand-new ones. That’s because one is more familiar with them. In order to apply new holdings, one needs practice. A few new holdings are “hamburger-hug”, “group-hug”, “offensive hug” and “hug from the back” for instance. The Bear Hug is ideal for two individuals of disproportionate sizes and for saying, “You’re terrific,” or “You can count on me”. The Bear Hug is one of the hugs that is considered to be the strongest. By squeezing one’s hugging partner gently, one can instantly give them reassurance and affection. But people tend to use Bear Hugs when they are excited or when they want to display strong affection. However remember, the best Bear Hugs require moderate squeezing not suffocating! The A-Frame–Brief Hug is ideal for little-known relatives and situations requiring a bit of formality. All of the hugging takes place above the neck. This hug communicates polite caring or detached warmth. Great especially amongst newly-made friends and relations. The Cheek Hug is a tender hug that says “I’m sorry you’re disappointed,” or is ideal to share joy or greet an elderly relative. Cheek Hug is used when there’s a need to comfort someone or show affection. But this type of hug also allows us to keep our distance at the same time. The Cheek Hug may be used by anyone - elderly people who may not be able to hug tightly, people who are colleagues, acquaintances and even friends and family. The Back to Front Hug is the perfect way to give support and affection to someone, even if they are busy carrying out a task like the washing up! Receiving a Back to Front Hug shows the receiver that there’s someone who is always there for him or her, and is a way of expressing love and affection for that person irrespective of what is received in return The Side to Side Hug is a common sight we all see almost everyday. Most of us have all strolled down the road locked in a Side to Side Hug with someone. This casual hug allows us to demonstrate our affection for one another without being too intimate. It is also a way of conveniently hugging whilst carrying out other tasks such as walking, sitting down next to each other and standing in a queue for example. The Heart Centered Hug is one that all enjoy. A slow, intimate and well-needed Heart Hug can lift anyone’s spirits and is the perfect way to show close family, friends and partners how much one cares! Hugging is a wonderful tonic. In fact, the medical evidence is that, a hug even makes one’s body produce more oxytoxin, which is the ‘feel good’ hormone. Research in America found that one 20-second hug a day makes a big difference between how happy and relaxed we are. Which is why people in a healthy relationship are happier and feel less stressed. In the principle one should better hug lively and energetically. So, have this peculiarly deep and valuable idea (not only phenomenon) of hugging, indeed and one can create long-lasting warm relationships. Hugging is an amazing medicine. It transfers energy, and gives the person hugged an emotional boost. Someone somewhere said, one needs four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. A hug makes one feel good. The skin is the largest organ we have and it needs a great deal of care. A hug can cover a lot of skin and gives the message that one cares. It is also a form of communication. It can say things one doesn’t have words for. The nicest thing about a hug is that, one usually can’t give one without getting one. 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By Gregg Gillies More and more people are realizing the many benefits of weight lifting routines as the basis of a healthy exercise plan. Weight training can help you add muscle (big muscle for guys, shapely, toned muscle for women), burn body fat (and do so faster and more efficiently than aerobics), get fit, feel great, and look even better. Whether your goal is to lose a few pounds of fat and firm up, tone up your problem areas (if you’re a woman), add a few pounds of muscle, or compete in body building or powerlifting competitions, you need to engage in properly devised resistance training programs. Weight lifting workouts are the key to completely transforming your body, getting fit, and getting strong. They are also a key component of a peak performance program for athletes. Nowadays, athletes that don’t implement weight training tailored to improving their sports performance will be left behind. Weight lifting workouts are a key part of an athlete’s success. Lifting weights is a much more important factor than aerobics when it comes to shedding body fat and keeping it off. You will not build the body you want without implementing proper weight lifting workouts into your fitness program. Aerobics alone willjust make you skinny-fat. If your goal is to shed fat, you need the right weight lifting routines. If you want to add muscle, you need weight lifting workouts to help you get there. If you want to get extremely strong, make no mistake, weighttraining is your key to success. Check out one of my favorite weight lifting routines: There has been so much fitness misinformation over the years that I really feel I need to say it again - Weight lifting routines are the key to getting the body you want (and keeping it), not aerobics! Crank Up Your Progress With The 3 x 3 Weight Lifting Routine If you are feeling a bit burned out or stale on your current weight lifting routines, if you need a change, or if you just want to stimulate new and impressive gains in muscle and fat loss, here’s a program you just have to try. Let’s make no mistake, this weight lifting routine is far from easy and you need a high level of mental motivation but if you can give it your all you will love the progress you make. This weight lifting program is not new, but my guess is that you haven’t seen anyone go through it at your gym or fitness club. There’s a reason for that and the reason is hard work - very hard work. But, you only get out of something what you put into it, or as someone once said, ’successful people are willing to do what unsuccessful people won’t.” If you want to be ordinary, do ordinary things, if you want to be extra-ordinary, well, that’s a whole new ball game. Let’s be extra-ordinary, shall we? This weight lifting routine is usually called the 3 x 3 workout and the simple reasoning for that is that you perform three exercises in a row, three times without stopping. Yes, that’s nine sets in a row without stopping. But that’s all you do for the workout and then you can go home. And it’s a full body weight lifting workout so it’s as time efficient as it gets. Of course, it’s also about as hard as weight lifting routines get. This isn’t your grandparent’s circuit training routine. It’s also one of the most time efficient weight lifting routines in existence. There are a number of variations you can do but the key is to select three exercises that target the whole body. So you will want multi-joint compound movements that target the lower body, the chest and the back. Weight lifting routines that ignore certain body parts can spell injury trouble down the line. A few examples are the leg press, the bench press, and the curl grip lat pulldown. You would do each exercise without stopping and repeat three times. In other words you would do the following without stopping: Leg Press, Bench Press, Pulldown, Leg Press, Bench Press, Pulldown, Leg Press, Bench Press, Pulldown. Make sure you use a curl grip on the pulldown due to the more direct biceps hit from the exercise. Now, when you begin, you may want to try a 30 second rest interval between each set. Weight lifting routines in this manner are brutal, but you get out of it what you put into it so be prepared to go through the whole workout without stopping as soon as you possibly can. The repetition targets should be as follows - 1st set - Leg exercise, 20 reps, chest exercise, 12, upper back exercise, 12. 2nd set - Leg exercise, 15, chest exercise, 10 and upper backexercise 10. 3rd set - Leg exercise, 8, chest exercise, 8 and upper back exercise, 8. Keep the weights the same until you hit the target repetitions on the 3rd and final set. Try starting out by doing this weight lifting workout three times per week. As you really start progressing you may find you get better results working this routine twice per week and eventually 3 times every two weeks. For example, during the first week do the workout on Monday and Friday and next week only do it on Wednesday. If you work it right, this is as demanding a weight training routine as you will do. That’s the main reason you never see anyone performing this routine. After a couple break in workouts you shouldn’t do this routine for more than 4 weeks, 6 weeks max, before downshifting the intensity for a week or so. The workouts are short, but very taxing. If you tried to adopt this type of workout every time you went to the gym, you’d eventually start dreading your workouts, then giving them a half hearted effort, then skipping them altogether. And no matter how result producing weight routines are, they can’t produce results if you stop training, right? Now, what’s so special about this routine? A few things, really. It makes sure you increase the intensity of your workout, which is a key to muscle growth. By cramming more work into a shorter amount of time your intensity increases greatly over what you were doing previously. By shortening the workout so much, you are more likely to go all out on each set because you won’t be pacing yourself for a silly two hour workout. If you’ve been doing a routine with a decent amount of volume and numerous workouts per week, this will be quite a change and your intensity levels will skyrocket, spurring your body into new growth. On the fat burning side, this routine will elevate your heart rate, giving you a good cardio workout. Believe me, if you do the typical cardio routine of most gym goers, this weight training program will be more of a cardio workout than you are used to. You will burn more calories during the actual routine. In addition, due to the intensity level your body’s metabolism will stay elevated long after the workout, burning more calories at rest, and helping to melt the bodyfat away. Numerous studies have shown that high intensity training (both weight training and high intensity interval cardio training) can keep your metabolism elevated for up to 38 hours after your workout is over. In other words, train intensely enough, and you’ll be burning fat while doing nothing. Not a bad deal, for a brief period of working hard. This workout should only take about 20 minutes, maybe slightly longer with a few warm up sets. And you’ll be doing it only 2 times a week or less, 3 times max, and only the first week or two when you are breaking it in. And the workout will build muscle, burn fat, and rev your metabolism to much higher levels, throwing you headfirst toward the body you want. If you put into it what you want to get out of it, you’ll see some fantastic results as long as your nutrition and supplementation programs are in place. Gregg Gillies is the founder of Buile Lean Muscle.com His articles have appeared in Ironman Magazine. He has written two books and is a regular contributor to Body Talk Magazine. He publishes a free fitness newsletter available at his site that includes lots of weight training tips, fat loss, nutrition and exercise program information to help you build your best body as quickly as possible. See how you can get a customized nutrition plan at http://www.mynutritionjournal.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Gregg_Gillies http://EzineArticles.com/?Burn-Fat-Fast-with-the-Unique-3-x-3-Training-Routine&id=126656 where can i purchase ambien online without a prescriptio ativan lorazepam abuse buy ambien ambien ambiem

By Ken Marlborough Although it is a satisfying and overwhelming experience, going on a fly fishing trip alone can fly by so fast it has ended before you know it. It can also be such as a hassle if you did not make preparations before making the trip. You could spend most of your time attending to malfunctioning equipment and other little troubles that could have been avoided had you come prepared! You make a fly fishing trip memorable and successful even if you are doing it only by yourself. Consider these five travel tips to help you focus on the fishing part of your trip and not on other irrelevant matters. 1. Visualize yourself on the water. Ask yourself: What do I need? How can I catch fish? Imagining what you should be doing on the fishing site can help you know the kinds of equipment you will use on the field. 2. Be organized. Categorize your things. Keep things of the same category in one bag or place. For instance, place all your fishing equipment in one bag so that every time you go out to fish, you will know which one to carry. 3. Plan ahead. Time is essential on fishing trips like this. Do not waste time driving or walking around not knowing what to do. Plan ahead for the whole day. If you are not yet sure of places you want to visit, bring a map with you or ask suggestions from resort staffs and other people you meet along the way. 4. Have a back up. Even the best fly fishing gear breaks down occasionally. It is always good to be ready and prepared in cases of emergency. 5. Stay tough. Winds and rain are normal at high elevations. Prepare your rain gear. After all, it is just water! Fly Fishing Trips provides detailed information on Fly Fishing Flies, Fly Fishing Gear, Fly Fishing Knots, Fly Fishing Reels and more. Fly Fishing Trips is affiliated with Fly Fishing Vacations. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ken_Marlborough http://EzineArticles.com/?Individual-Fly-Fishing-Trips&id=410477 shore zolpidem migra-profen taken with ambien discount ambien does ambien elevate blood pressure

By Ann Krause Did you ever think about teaching your children to bake at home, did you ever think that they might want to learn, with all the products that are on the market today there is not a real need for home baking, you can go to the store and buy your bread, cakes, cookies, and so on so why would we ever want to make anything at home. Home baking can be a joyful experience to adults as well as children. Children seem to thrive on knowledge and in my mind we dont give them enough. Teaching your child to bake is a responsibility that should not be taken lightly, we need to teach the safety factors as wall as how to do a good job. Start out teaching your child just how dangerous a stove and oven can be, let them watch you do your baking for a while and then let them start measuring the ingredients with you checking that they are doing it correctly, after a while give them an easy recipe to do on their own with your guidance of course, let them build the confidence that they need to do a great job, let the child place the product that they prepared into the oven with you removing it the first few times so that the child can see that a oven is not a toy and that they can be badly burned if not careful. Let your children get all the on the job training with you at hand before letting them on their own, give them all the baking tips that you have come across, after your child has learned the basics of baking they will probably start on their own and have the satisfaction of knowing that they made it and it taste great and that they are no longer dependent on the grocer for a tasty treat or pay the outrageous prices for a simple birthday cake that now they can do on their own, and you as a parent will have a great feeling that you passed something on by teaching your child how to bake at home. Ann Marie Krause has been making cookies for over 30 years, at persent I am retired, for over 23 years I owned a Gourmet Bakery called The Cheese Confectioner.You can visit my site at http://www.annsgoodies.com NOTE: You are welcome to reprint this article online as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the about the author info at the end). Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ann_Krause http://EzineArticles.com/?Home-Baking&id=276027 ambien price boards chongqed ambien work ambien health ambien 7 day supply

By B. Hopkins Did you ever enjoy texture of yarns in your hand or wondering how that interesting color pattern was created in your favorite sweater? Then you will surely have fun learning the art of knitting. Knitting is one of several ways to turn thread or yarn into cloth-weaving and crochet. Its all about creativity. The Introductory Steps of Knitting Unlike woven fabric, knitted fabric consists entirely of horizontal parallel courses of yarn. The courses are joined to each other by interlocking loops in which a short loop of one course of yarn is wrapped over the bight of another course. Knitting can be done either by hand, described below, or by machine. What makes knitting even more exciting is the fact that this art can be easily learned. In practice, hand knitting is usually begun by forming a base series of twisted loops of yarn on a needle. This is called Cast On. 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It is the variations and combinations of these two stitches that create all the different stitch patterns which are possible in knitting. Typically, a knit stitch is formed by inserting the needle in the front of the loop from a left-to-right perspective and pulling a loop of yarn through to form a new loop, while a purl stitch is formed by inserting the needle in the front of the loop from a right-to-left perspective. A piece of knitting begins with the process of casting on, which involves the initial creation of the stitches on the needle. Casting on is the first step in knitting These stitches become the first row of stitches and one selvage of your work, usually the bottom or hem. Different methods of cast on are used for different effects; one may be stretchy enough for lace, while another provides a decorative edging. Provisional cast on is used when the knitting will continue in both directions from the cast on. The body of a knitted piece may include plain stitches or a number of colors and textured patterns. The number of active stitches remains the same as when cast on unless stitches are added -an increase or removed- a decrease to shape the item. Patterns to Knit (Way to Online Income): There are lots of people who sit at home and publish great knitting patters from home. Since over the years they have collected and modified many knitting patterns. They make a great income by selling/publishing the patterns on the net. Once you have enough practice, even you could make some online income. Many patterns can be made by using knit and purl stitches in various combinations. If only knits or only purls are used when working back and forth in rows, the result is called garter stitch. Alternating rows of knits and purls result in stockinette stitch, also known as stocking or jersey stitch, the stitch most often used in commercial garments such as T-shirts. 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